Sep 18 2014
I like to read news on the Internet. My Facebook page is set up to “like” a few periodicals. And I also have my home page set to Google News with some preselected news topics that give me the latest info on those topics (I still try to keep up with Okinawan issues, even though it makes me long to go back there).
Based on recent trends (for whatever reason), I’ve been seeing a few articles on helicopter parents. I agree with the concern, especially when I hear stories from other faculty about the moms of college kids calling the teacher to inquire about junior’s poor grade on his last paper. (I’m sure the mom took it personally since she probably wrote it: “Why was I graded, I mean why was junior graded so poorly?”)
However, I think the term is applied too broadly. In some cases, experts say things like “leave your kids alone during homework.” However, I have read, and believe, that having kids do well in school means taking an interest in their homework and schoolwork. This doesn’t mean actually doing the homework, of course. But, there are benefits in helping one’s kids study for a test, in looking over homework they struggle with, or asking about what they are studying. And, with schools posting grades on the school websites, it helps to keep track of grade trends before they get too far on the downward slope (and that is the only way I hear about grades anyway – my kids don’t share this info).
So, I’m going to keep helping my kids with their homework. I might also politely email a teacher about progress. But I won’t be doing what I see as true helicoptering around my kids’ school efforts. What does that encompass, you ask? Well, I’ll end here and provide you a link to a Top 5 of Helicopter Parent Stories. These are really funny!
Do you have a parenting tip or helicopter example to share?